What you focus on grows. Becomes more important. So if you do not want that way your body looks like to dictate how you see yourself, how you feel about yourself, your state of being, then you have to stop going on about it.
We all want to look a certain way, of course. I want to look a certain way. But, I do not train, and live and breathe and diet to look a certain way. I do it for other things, and the look is a by-product of that. Also if I am in a certain physical state, my performance is better, because I am better equipped to do all these things that I want to do.
My focus is not on what my body looks like. I have no emotional attachment to the look of it and no part of my being is dictated by what my forearm looks like.
This love/hate relationship with what your body looks like and analyzing every single part and whether you hate or love that part creates a huge emotional attachment and a massive focus on it. So all of a sudden you feel like a part of your being is in the size of your ass.
Lets say you just broke up with somebody. And you are constantly going on about them. Whether it is in a negative way: I just really want him to die” or a positive way: “I just wish him all the best and his new girlfriend and Namaste to the both of them.” It really doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter because what you are doing, is just constantly yapping on about your ex boyfriend. Putting a huge focus on him and he still very much there in your life even if him and his new girlfriend are having a Namaste time somewhere else.
And it is the same thing when it comes to your body. It doesn’t matter if you are going on about it in a loving way or a loathing way, you are still just going on and on about what your body looks like.
And I have said this before, body image has nothing to do with your body. It has to do with you and the state you are in. So if I see another post about positive body image where they are just talking about how much they love each body part, I am going to put a fork in my eye.
You need to stop this. Putting so much emotional attachment and attention in the things that do not benefit your being. Things that you do not want as the centre of your attention.
If you don’t, then all of a sudden that ex boyfriend or that big ass, or that handbag become so significant, that you feel worthless without these things. And that is not how it is.