So people, us, we are very good at voicing the things that we do not like about yourselves.
“I went to a wedding last week and I had to wear a dress and as you know, I just hate my fat arms, or you know, as always, I was really insecure like when I was handing in my stuff today at work because I feel like there are so many things I don’t know, so I feel like it is never good enough.
And then day after day, week after week, year after year, you complain and talk about the same shit that you are happy about about yourself. And you have done it so much, that now when you talk about it, you go: “as you know” because you have talked about it so much.
Do you know what? There has to come a time where you either do something about these things, or shut the fuck up.
There are so many things in life that you have no control over. Endless of things. But everything that has to do with you, you control.
Stop going on about your fat arms or your limited knowledge when it comes to your work, or whatever else that you aren’t happy about when it comes to yourself like you just lost a bet and you got stuck with these things and there is nothing you can do.
Why the hell do you want to spend your life being unhappy with who you are, what you look like, your work, your relationships, when you actually control all of these things and can change them.
From now on, stop talking and start doing. Start treating yourself better. Start respecting yourself more. And please do not get so okay with being unhappy that you actually start to make excuses for it and pretend you are okay. “Actually, I don’t think it would fit me to have slim arms.” Or “I would love to be a manager and that is my goal but then I have to speak in front of people so actually I think the job I have now is pretty good, actually I am very happy with it. Do not become content with not being content. Do something about these things. And stop killing yourself and everybody else by just talking about your fat arms all the time. Its time for a new conversation.